Posted by just plain jane on January 19, 2005, at 21:41:53
In reply to Re: oh my gosh, my boss did the same thing!, posted by gardenergirl on January 19, 2005, at 19:00:30
When folks talk about boundaries it makes me wonder how, having been to several Ts and a few Pdocs, how it is that bounaries have never even been discussed, let alone become an issue.
For therapy now I go, talk about what is going on with me as far as what I'm feeling, my neverending quest for more understanding of what has shaped me, how I feel about it, what these things have caused me to do. It's an analytical brainstorming we do together; both working on the same puzzle.
Sometimes I just pour forth with everything I've thought or felt in the areas we are working on. She interjects thoughts, suggestions, questions. Sometimes I am intensely emotional, pulled back into an extremely painful place where there are still fresh wounds. At that place is where I must be to "deal and heal", to begin addressing that specific issue, or to pick up at the point I have progressed to.
My T, whomever that may be, and my Pdoc as well, are people, just like me, with lives and realities, which include their job: working with people like us in the capacities they were trained for. I guess my point of view could be seen as boundaries, but there's never been a need to discuss them.
It feels like some folks get all caught up in the mechanics of the therapist-client relationship. How can a client continue to go to a therapist if the relationship is not comfortable?
Just sounds like unnecessary complication added to an already complicated life.
just plain seeing it my way jane
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