Posted by alexandra_k on January 3, 2005, at 17:04:37
In reply to Re: Idealizing » mair, posted by Toph on January 3, 2005, at 9:07:36
>fights over rules before I take a risk of sharing some part of myself.
Yeah, I guess it is something to say. Something to do. Something that tends to prompt a response. Keeps them awake, eh? I do this too. Maybe it is a 'test' in a way. See how they handle it. I mean, if they are going to get all upset with you at that point, well, then it is good to know that before divulging something of real personal significance. Something where their upset can really cut you to the bone.
>He hides behind a veil. I suppose he has to. But here we are talking about him and the dynamics of his website and he just watches. How can it be that I must respond but he remains a silent observer when someone says something nice about him, attacks him, or discusses his website?Legal consequences of getting involved. There is also the point that we are here for us and our needs. Emotional needs. Dr. B, on the other hand is not and so I guess he just has to restrain his desire (which I figure he may have at times though I guess I could be wrong) to give us an earful or whatever. I too am compelled to respond.. I mean, here I am yaking to you guys after having vowed to stay clear of this board. Certain issues on this board. I should have said that...
Anyway, if he really did respond more then would that really help us or hurt us? Maybe idealisation comes from so very many blanks for our little minds to get busy filling in the details, but then on the other hand maybe more involvement would just provide all the more 'evidence' that Dr B is 'just like' so and so from the past. Maybe the transference responses would be worse.
Of course I am just raving...
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