Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2005, at 9:23:22
In reply to Re: Forever therapy - Spoke to my therapist » Dinah, posted by Annierose on January 1, 2005, at 8:29:15
If only it were so easy to believe it. It does seem reasonable, and it meshes with my experience, and it is non-shaming.
Yet faced with the obvious disapproval of others, the reminders from my family and bosses that my therapist is getting a good income stream from me, and the near-global societal expectation that you're supposed to get better and learn to meet your needs in the real world, it is really hard to keep shame out of the equation.
Daisy, no one in my life except my husband and Babble knows the frequency with which I go to therapy (and my migraine doctor now I suppose). I don't talk about it with anyone because of the shame I feel. I have a couple of different sources of medical reimbursement, and I pay a fair amount flat out of pocket. My company thinks I go once a week. So does my family, except my husband. And I try never ever to admit how long I've been going.
Sigh.
Does anyone have any ideas about how it's even possible to meet therapy needs in the outside world, given that therapy isn't a friendship or lover or anything like that relationship? Therapy is therapy. Do people who haven't had a therapeutic relationship know how different it is from friendship or anything else in the real world?
BTW, my therapist is sensitive and terrific. And he knows me so well. I saw him at the post office yesterday and I'm pretty sure he saw me, and busied himself writing something down at a counter. He knows I don't like to see him outside the sacred therapy space. :)
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