Posted by gardenergirl on December 15, 2004, at 0:15:35
In reply to Re: Bad session » pinkeye, posted by thewrite1 on December 14, 2004, at 20:22:40
> That's kind of my thinking, too. Like I said, she has fallen asleep before so we've discussed that.
I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. How awful. For me, falling asleep in session is unforgiveable. And to do it more than once! Of course you reacted to it, especially to her attempt to cover it up. Your feelings about it are absolutely valid, and this is her problem, not something you are doing.
Regarding whether what you are talking about is contributing to it by her being bored, well, I can understand that worry. I've wondered before if I was boring my T. When I asked him about it, he said he wasn't aware of being bored, but if he were, that would be fodder for therapy itself. But again, that is the T's responsibility to manage. If I did that with one of my clients, I would fully expect to have them call me on it, perhaps report it to my supervisor, and then have him call me on the carpet for it. If I did it frequently, I would fully expect to fail my training. Whatever the reasons, I think this is very unacceptable behavior.
And of course you feel let down by her. This is like the ultimate failure in being present to you, which is a basic expectation for therapy. I don't mean to sound harsh about this, but I am absolutely astounded that this could happen more than once.
Please consider challenging her about this and changing T's to someone who will be present for you, if you feel like it might be helpful. You deserve her full attention! You can quote me on that. :)
gg
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