Posted by fallsfall on November 12, 2004, at 17:29:01
In reply to Re: T shopping questions for falls and others » fallsfall, posted by crushedout on November 11, 2004, at 23:03:31
Yes, the second therapist (therapist #3) is my current therapist.
I had started to look around at other therapists, and had told my old therapist that I wanted to do that. She was talking about kicking me out in a couple of months anyway (because I wasn't getting any less dependent), so this seemed fine with her. She gave me a couple of names (including him), and I got names from other people, too.
I had done the interviews and had a session with her. I was telling her what was said at the interviews, and it was while I was doing that that I realized that the reason I was looking for a new therapist was not the reason she thought I was looking for a new therapist - and that she had no idea that I had been completely miserable for 4 months. At that point, I had it narrowed down to 2 therapists. So I asked her for her opinion between the 2 therapists. Even though I was leaving, she still knew me better than anyone and I still did respect her professional judgement. She thought that he would be better than the other one.
I was incredibly upset (because clearly she had no idea what was going on with me) and tried to get her to see me sooner than the next week. But she was not willing to do that (she thought it would encourage my dependence). It was the end of the session, I told her that she didn't understand me, and I left. I then called him and made an appointment with him and he and I discussed whether I would go back to see her (which I decided not to do). So I left her a voicemail, and that was that.
So, no he wasn't quite lined up the last time I saw her, but he sort of was. I definately needed his help to decide whether to see her one last time or not.
How are things going with you?
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