Posted by Racer on October 6, 2004, at 9:52:09
In reply to Re: Should've gone to that specialist » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on October 6, 2004, at 6:50:43
Dinah, whom I look up to so much? Afraid of *anyone*? Say it ain't so!
Sorry, had to tease you a bit. I do look up to you, though, you know.
Anyway, I do think that the sex therapist was the first choice for any problem you might have regarding -- you know. Surgery, no matter how minor, is always a last resort. If your doctor doesn't understand why that is, that's her distorted perspective.
(My aunt, the Human Steamroller, has been watching those "Extreme Makeover" type shows lately, and the result is that she keeps bringing up plastic surgery to me. "Oh, if I ever win the Lottery, I'll pay for you to have a breast reduction, dear." Um, hello? That's major surgery? Maybe there are reasons I might not jump at the idea of having tons of chemicals pumped into my body to knock me out, while some guy with a sharp knife amputates parts of my body? Maybe I'd want to think about that? Let's get back to reality here, 'K?)
Anyway, if you like and trust this doctor, then this gives you an opportunity to learn to say something like, "Gee, Doc, before I considered surgery, I wanted to explore non-invasive options first. If this doesn't help, then I'll have a consult with the specialist you recommended." And, if that's not entirely enough for her, you can add something like, "It's taking me a while, because this is a loaded issue for me. Still, even if I'm going slowly, I am moving forward on it. I'm just doing it at a pace that I feel more comfortable with."
Hell, woman! How long have you had this problem? How long have you been married? If it were a deal killer in your marriage, wouldn't that have shown up by now? Is your doctor part of your marriage, to make decisions about *when* you deal with this?
Best luck, and much teasing to you.
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