Posted by mair on September 26, 2004, at 12:45:50
In reply to To read or not to read, posted by vwoolf on September 26, 2004, at 12:02:33
There was a time when my T was critical of my participation on Babble because she viewed as an impediment to therapy, my tendency to want to understand everything before I could talk about it. I do an awful lot of self-censorship and I like to be able to present things to her in a neat package.
I think it's a balance, because I could also argue to her that it's easier for me to talk about things after I've posted about them here - for me maybe the same as writing things in a journal. On the other hand I can also see her point about not allowing myself to feel things because by the time they're discussed, I've intellectualized them already. And also, sometimes after I've posted here, I don't feel a particular need to discuss it with her at all - so I've had some sort of strong emotional reaction that never gets processed with her.
In my case, I don't think posting here or not posting here would make a bit of difference to what transpired in therapy. I could take away Babble and still have some of the same difficulties with therapy. It sounds to me like your situation might be different. If your reading of these books interferes with what needs to(not might) happen in therapy, she may be right to ask you to read less.
Mair
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