Posted by daisym on August 14, 2004, at 1:06:00
In reply to Progress, posted by fallsfall on August 13, 2004, at 12:04:59
I'm glad you found this distinction that makes things easier. I think the hardest part of parenting is not being your child's friend. They don't have to like what you do, or understand. But they do have to be respectful and follow the rules. I have a 16 yr old who says, "I don't understand!" I answer -- "no, you just don't agree."
It is important to be understood, especially in your thought processes. Especially by your therapist. But not being understood doesn't make you evil or bad. It is highly frustrating though. Some people are more invested in their conclusions or answers, others in how the pieces come together to form the puzzle. Those people usually will agree that another possible picture could have been put together from the same puzzle pieces. Folks who are only interested in the "correct" answer, can only see that someone is wrong and someone is right. This makes us try harder and harder to show how we reached the conclusion we have. Ultimately, it becomes vitally important because we don't want our thinking dismissed, even if our conclusion is.
I'm glad you are driving safely and carefully. Please continue to do so. Congrats to the new driver. There is relief in that. Often you will see improved mood now that this really important milestone is past. Like a child who is frustrated learning to walk, once they are mobile, you see such a change!
Hang in there. You are a good mom and she is lucky to have you.
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