Posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 23:40:49
In reply to DBT thoughts of suicide***why?, posted by terrics on July 13, 2004, at 21:38:37
I'm sorry it's so tough in therapy. I know I would not want to be grilled for 45 minutes or at all. Have you told her that's what this feels like? It may be that she is doing something called chain analysis. Is she trying to reconstruct times when you cut to see what factors are involved and what you felt, thought, did, etc.? That process IS grueling. But is should also have some validation to it. If you say you did X because you felt Y, the T should be able to put herself into your place and see how that made sense to you at the time...even if it is not what she would do, or might not be the best choice for you to do. Does that make sense? Then she should look at where in the chain you could do something different to have a different outcome. Could she be skimping a bit on the validation part? That's one of the more difficult things for a T doing DBT...balancing validation/acceptance with change.
At any rate, I'm glad you are doing better, and I'm glad you have someone to call tonight.
Please stay safe. Call your friend, call your T, pdoc, hospital, whatever it takes. And please let us know how you are doing a little later.
((((terrics))))
gg
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