Posted by AuntieMel on July 12, 2004, at 11:07:05
In reply to Talk about lousy timing..., posted by Racer on July 9, 2004, at 14:30:25
Example of lousy timing:
I was seeing my therapist for about a year, just getting to the point of being able to really talk (serious trust issues) when I went to a session, ready to get crackin'. I noticed it seemed a bit strained, and he looked preocupied. When I asked him what was up, he asked me if I thought I might be better off with someone else.
Gasp! Horrors! Start over?? Of course all the immediate thoughts were that I was doing something wrong and he didn't like me and he wanted to get rid of me and and and....
When I could finally spead I asked 'why do you ask?' and he said something about not thinking he was doing me any good and he felt like he was failing (hey, doc, that's my department)
The next week I finally got up the nerve to tell him how bad that simple question made me feel.
Now - one suggestion - when I was in the lowest part trying to struggle back up I was having trouble getting anything done, too. The family was lucky if I showered. So I started making lists of 'things to do' each morning. The goals for the day. When I started it, the list maybe had one or two small things on it, but it gradually (very gradually) increased as soon as I felt comfortable enough.
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