Posted by steelmagnolia25 on July 10, 2004, at 18:59:06
In reply to Re: angry - shortelise, posted by shortelise on July 9, 2004, at 21:30:18
Shortelise,
I hope that things work out for you when he returns. I support you 100% in talking to him about your fear and suspiciion that he is pushing you away. I dealt with very similar feelings with my T and I feel like things wouldn't have gotten so complicated if I'd told him the truth. There were times when he would say to me, "If there's a week when you don't feel like coming in, you are always free to call and cancel your appointment." I hated when he said that because I would *interpret* it to mean, "I wish you weren't so consistent and would cancel sometime." I even feared he would cancel my appointments! Big leap, I know, but that's just my fear speaking.
If you read my earlier thread, you might know that my T and I just went through a strange and premature termination. When I went to see him a few days ago I finally expressed a lot of those fears and the anger I felt toward him for suggesting the termination. He handled it so much better than I thought he would. It sounds like you and your T have done some really good long-term work, so he can probably handle it as well.
Take care...
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