Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2004, at 17:23:35
In reply to Re: One T's opinion and reaction » All Done, posted by daisym on June 28, 2004, at 16:25:00
Funny thing is that I just had this conversation with my therapist. He answered in that careful way that meant he thought he was answering a feeler I was putting out about giving *him* a gift. Basically he said that there were two schools of thought. One school didn't accept gifts of any sort. One school felt it was better to accept gifts graciously. And I told him about the Babble discussions and how much thought and effort people put into cards and gifts, and how painful a refusal to accept might be. And how it disturbs us to have our cards put in our files. He didn't grasp that concept. I told him it made it seem as if the card was some sort of clinical indicator or something. He said it was probably just that because of confidentiality a card couldn't be displayed like cards from business associates.
The reason I brought it up was that it was ten minutes left in the session and I needed to calm down from what we were discussing. And when I saw how careful he was being I laughed and reminded him that I *never* gave him gifts. He said that was fine too, very few clients gave him gifts. I asked him if I could bring a cupcake for him on our tenth anniversary next year and he thought that was fine.
Just another therapist's two cents. (Or let's see, ten of fifty minutes at $110 an hour... considerably more than 2 cents.)
poster:Dinah
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