Posted by daisym on June 21, 2004, at 15:14:18
In reply to missing post » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2004, at 12:59:35
GG --
I know exactly what you mean about people seeing your mom differently than you do. When my mom retired last year there were 700+ people at the party, each telling me what an exceptional woman she is.
And she is. But they look at her children and think she has a done a super job with us, while building her career because we are all doing pretty well, all married, all have kids, all have careers, etc. etc. (OK, there IS my sister but every family has a black sheep, right? And even she produced an intellectually gifted kid..) Sometimes I want to tell people that I raised my sibling when she was busy working!
I sometimes look at my mother and think all the problems are with me. I wanted (still do) stuff from her she isn't capable of giving. She is comfortable with who she is. I'm the one in therapy. What does that say?
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