Posted by LG04 on May 11, 2004, at 16:19:35
In reply to Re: A question my T. asked me about her vacation...., posted by vwoolf on May 11, 2004, at 13:45:26
I have very similar issues when my therapist goes on vacation. I am always very angry when she comes back and spend most of the session in furious silence. It's SOOOOOOO hard for me. I also try to disconnect from her while she is gone, telling myself I don't care and don't need her anyway.
Last time, I asked her if she would bring me a rock that I could hold. She picked one out for me from her garden and told me why she liked it. I still carry it with me in my backpack every day and sometimes I go to sleep holding it. It has calmed me down many times. I thought once to give her money to buy me a blanket so that I could cover myself with the blanket whenever I want to feel safe and close to her. But so far I haven't asked for that. If I move back to the States this summer and leave therapy with her, then I might ask this of her. Otherwise I probably won't.
Something related and "funny" that happened...I was in the hospital about 10 days ago for feeling suicidal, not functioning, etc. (I haven't been hospitalized for over 10 years so it was a huge deal but I'm downplaying it at this moment.) I went without having totally planned it. I was wearing sandals with no socks. My feet were really cold. My therapist came to the hospital that evening. I told her how cold my feet were. She took her socks off right there and gave them to me! (they happened to be cute and colorful too). I wore them every day in the hospital without taking them off and for about 3 days after I left. I felt so safe in them. I asked her if I could keep them and she said yes. I did tell her that I wish at night her socks could magically grow into a blanket that I could wrap around myself.
So maybe you can ask your therapist for a pair of her socks!!!!! :)
LG
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