Posted by LG04 on April 20, 2004, at 16:12:50
In reply to Darn stupid thing to be upset about, posted by Dinah on April 20, 2004, at 15:46:38
Dinah, that would drive me crazy too. One of those therapist kinds of answers...vague...anyway I sympathize with you. Also, I have a running commentary in my head about not trusting my therapist as well.
I can tell you something my therapist has said a few times that have helped me. It's come up when I've told her that I want her to be perfect so that I can know that she'll never hurt me. (isn't that what trust is largely about...not wanting to get hurt?) She said that people sometimes hurt each other, that it's inevitable in relationships since we are human. And that we feel feelings about it, talk about it (ideally), learn from it, and hopefully move forward. She told me that she would never INTENTIONALLY hurt me but that probably it will happen that she will unintentionally hurt me. (and she has)
We also talked about the degrees of hurting someone.
I don't have any outright advice to give, but thought that her comments might be relevent to your situation. And just wanting to tell you that I can understand your frustration and it's not at all darn or stupid.
LG
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