Posted by Penny on April 16, 2004, at 13:30:25
In reply to Re: Should we switch our couple's therapist? » Penny, posted by All Done on April 16, 2004, at 13:06:21
Ya' know - I'm not so worried about those of us with therapy experience finding "good" therapists. I know they are out there - the T I used to see did couple's therapy, and after I left, I actually referred some friends to her when they asked me for a recommendation. So I have no doubt that, since you know what questions to ask and what you are looking for, you would find a good one.
What does make me concerned, however, is the number of folks on this board I see who perhaps have never been in therapy before who are seeing therapists who are crossing boundaries they shouldn't cross and who aren't as professional as they need to be. I told my T the other day that I was so glad she's good at what she does. My former T was good as well, but made a mistake that I suspect is common. Not boundary crossing - her boundaries were pretty strict - but dealing with me and my transference issues. But she seemed to pick up quickly that her way of dealing with it wasn't working all too well, and she changed her method quickly, after which, all was right with the world again :-)
I do wish that more soon-to-be therapists and new therapists were enlightened to what appear to be common problems in practice methods. I'm planning, when I become a T, to work with only children and adolescents, so inappropriate (romantic) relationships with my clients won't be a concern anyway, but there will still be the transference and countertransference stuff going on, and I think that I will be better prepared for the possibilities as a result of this board.
Sorry to go completely off the topic of this thread!
Good luck with your decision, All Done.
P
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