Posted by Rigby on April 16, 2004, at 10:25:51
I was curious if anyone could tell me why a therapist would want very specific information regarding sexual matters or fanatasies.
My situation: I've become attracted to a man. I am--or at least have been--gay for almost my whole adult life. I was talking to my therapist about this last night.
She was quizzing me on what, specifically, I want to do with this guy sexually. I was really uncomfortable with it and she said it was fine to not answer if I found it "painful" but the more she knew the better.
I don't get *why* she needs to know specifics. I mean I was specific enough saying that I wanted a sexual relationship with this guy--isn't that enough? She wanted to know like what I wanted to "do" with him, etc. Huh?? Does anyone have a feel for what a therapist could gain from more specific information?
Note: This therapist is one who was gay then married a man so I kinda wonder about this a bit. She's also one where there has been attraction issues between us and over-involvement on her end with me. A few weeks ago when discussing rule-breaking in therapy I asked her if she recently broke any rules for me. She thought for a long moment and then answered, "Yes. I think about you--about all this--a *lot.*" I didn't think twice about her statement until now--it just didn't register with me.
Anyway, if anyone has any sort of insight it would be appreciated.
Thanks!!!
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