Posted by crushedout on April 15, 2004, at 12:32:34
In reply to Re: instincts » crushedout, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 15, 2004, at 12:11:48
I'm not sure if I'd call the second set of stuff "instincts" -- it's more my rational mind, from stuff that I've read and been told by people I trust. It goes against all of my instincts.
And I have been aware of this "fact" (that sleeping with your T is destructive) from the beginning, actually, but I've always felt in my bones (as I still do) that it's not true. I'm guessing that my bones are not so reliable here. :)
I guess you're right that it's not Ellen's business and I shouldn't feel guilty. I won't tell her out of guilt. I am worried more I think that it might put distance between us, when we're trying to get closer to each other after a difficult period. That's distinct from feeling guilty and would be a reason for my own good to tell her.
> Wow, that's very astute crushed. You have a second set of instincts which is telling you your first set of instincts (about sleeping with her) are probably not in your best interest.
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> Conflict is so frustrating. I am impressed that you on some level know that sleeping with her wouldn't be in your best interests. Just following your story, I'm not so sure if you would have said that, say, 6 months ago.
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> And I really do hope you go to see the second therapist. Sometimes having an objective opinion is so refreshing. And I don't think it is any of Ellen's business. You shouldn't feel guilty about not telling her. You should never feel guilty about exploring what is best FOR YOU.
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