Posted by pegasus on April 10, 2004, at 14:51:02
In reply to Re: Remind me again why therapy is worth it, posted by gardenergirl on April 10, 2004, at 10:50:16
Thanks so much, everyone. Y'all are the best.
I really hadn't considered that maybe it was a sort of invite to ask more, if I wanted to. That was a good thought, terrics. It does seem like I should bring it up again next week, since it got me so off track.
I think what I'd like to do, is just ask her if I can know some general things about her. Just whatever she's willing to tell me about her work, family, hobbies, etc. I'd like to know some of these things, because it feels very hard to tell someone all of my stuff if I don't know even some of the more basic outlines of the type of person she is. That feels dangerous to me. Which is maybe part of my reaction yesterday; I was afraid that I'd said something inappropriate or painful to her, or that she just didn't want me to know anything about her. So, that seems to be an issue for me.
This came up with my old T, too. We'd been talking about my wanting and fearing having children. And then, after weeks of that, one day he tells me that his wife is about to have a baby. I felt so stupid! And tricked! At the same time that I understood why he wouldn't have told me. It's all so confusing.
pegasus
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