Posted by shortelise on April 3, 2004, at 14:11:40
In reply to Re: argh - termination - help?, posted by LG04 on April 3, 2004, at 12:00:08
Pegasus, it helps to hear that you accomplished some important things in your last 8 weeks with your T. Your post is really helpful. The difference between acting and reacting ... that's an important concept for me right now. Thanks.
LG I never had a relationship like the one I have with my therapist. I swear it IS like having a lover, but no one gets laid :-) (forgive my ribaldry, please.)
What a decision you have to make! I feel for you.
My good friends have been friends for a long time, we've lived through life's curve balls and wonderful times together, and here we still are, friends.My therapist is not my friend. He is my psychiatrist, my doctor of the mind. But he is not my friend. And if I had to decide at this juncture if I wanted him as a friend or a therapist, it would make me crazy. It is not a decision I would want to have to make.
I'm talking about me, not you, ok? You sound very advanced, more than I am. In your situation, I think I'd go to the states, shop around and find a good therapist, and see how it goes. If after a year or so I felt I had another good therapeutic relationship, I'd consider a friendship with the Israeli T.
One thing I think is wonderful about your relationship with her is that she knows everything there is to know about you, and she so sincerely likes you that she wants to be friends with you. That's a gift for you, isn't it? That to me would be more healing than any number of years with my therapist. Hmm.. I am contradicting myself, but I still have difficulty believing my T likes me.
Change is hard.
Shorte
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