Posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 18:37:52
In reply to Sexual obsession, posted by vwoolf on March 22, 2004, at 13:10:05
I used to spend quite a bit of time talking about sexual matters, even though I am somewhat "weird" about sex. I'd often ask my therapist person questions about sex as well.
If you don't mind my asking, do you have sexual hang-ups? Or is there a reason that you focus on sex often? Do you use it as a distraction, instead of talking about things you should be discussing?
For me personally, I talked about sex to normalize the feelings and thoughts I had aobut sex. In a way, I wanted to know that it was OK to feel the way I did about sex, and to in a sense, have permission to think about sex without feeling guilty. I wouldn't say that I had a sexual obsession, nor do I think that you do either. In fact, I learned in a Psychology of Sexual Behavior class that there is no such disorder (Yahoo!!!)... There's a reason you are talking about sex for the amount of time that you are, and the key is to find out why... That's the tricky part. Wish I could help out more..
Part II... His reaction
He knew why I was asking so many questions, so he validated my feelings and answered my questions. Some of my questions were inapropriate, but he still answered, which made me feel even better because it made me feel no shame about sex. He didn't flinch or shy away from the hard stuff. I have a lot of respect for him in that aspect.
Perhaps you could bring this up and ask what your therapist thinks about you talking about sex often. I know, I know... It would suck. But, it would also be beneficial. There's a reason you are talking about it. The key is finding that reason.
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