Posted by Racer on February 4, 2004, at 9:31:31
In reply to Re: Who is in charge? » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on February 3, 2004, at 20:27:12
OK, obviously not a T here, but one of my clients "fixed" me once, and I'm forever grateful to her. As a riding teacher, I'm pretty tough. I will tell you you're not working hard enough, and I will tell you that the horse is not a sofa you get to lounge on. Oh, and some days I get so frustrated at getting students who've been allowed to move ahead faster than they should simply because their old teachers never took the trouble to ask them to work harder.
So, one day, one of my students said to me, "You know, you're a really good riding instructor. Just try to remember to tell us what we're doing right..."
That was like the 2x4 to get my attention. It made me a better teacher, and I've been profoundly grateful to her ever since. I'd bet we do the same to our Ts more often than we think, and I'd bet they're grateful for it, too.
(Acting on that theory, I always tell my T when she says something that really resonates for me. Maybe it doesn't help, maybe it does, but at least she gets more clues to working with me from what I point out.)
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