Posted by Rigby on January 21, 2004, at 18:44:29
In reply to Feeling oddly insecure about therapy..., posted by Asya on January 21, 2004, at 16:12:45
Hi Asya,
One question and a few thoughts.
May I ask what prompted you to begin therapy?
Some thoughts...
1. I think it's a fairly common psychological defense to think that everything is "fine" so you don't need to dig and probe. Chances are, whatever prompted you to start is worth looking into. Listen to your instincts.
2. It can't hurt to set goals for your therapy. And it can't hurt to be as clear as possible as to why you're there. If you're unclear you may even ask that your therapist help you to clarify what you need and why you're there and help you come up with a few concrete goals to work towards. I've been in therapy for two years and I'd say every 3-6 months I re-evaluate why I'm there and my goals. I've got three I'm working on to get to completion.
3. Regarding how to start. You're paying for every minute of therapy. For me, a fifty minute session is $75. That's a buck fifty a minute. Five minutes on weather-talk and $7.50 is gone. I usually take a deep breath and say, "So. Where were we?" It sets a tone for me of, "I'm here to work." It's never interpretted as rude or abrupt--I usually smile when I say it but again the message is we're here to focus.
Hope this helps a bit. Hang in there--it takes time.
Rigby
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