Posted by DaisyM on January 18, 2004, at 20:09:41
In reply to Re: Just Checking on you » DaisyM, posted by fallsfall on January 18, 2004, at 9:53:15
You make perfect sense...I can see digging in your heels to keep from falling over. I think it is interesting that he is seeing a pattern that you've known about...now can you figure out if you want/need to change it? Or does it prevent you from changing something else?
I also think that we have to guard against allowing anyone to make us feel like our coping strategies are bad. One of the things I really like about my Therapist is that when I am having a really hard time, he usually asks me how I have coped in the past, or he suggests ways of coping now. He acknowledges that it might not be totally authentic but if it gets you through, and isn't self destructive, it is ok.
I will remind you that you can't fail therapy. It says so in the books. A client's success is due to the client but their failures are due to the Therapist and/or process. (Yalom, I think).
I'm glad you are feeling more hopeful. I hope tomorrow goes well.
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