Posted by Karen_kay on January 17, 2004, at 10:22:07
In reply to Re: being referred on » Karen_kay, posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 23:42:04
I'm just in need of constant reassurance. That's all :) The thought has never crossed my mind that he may act on any type of boundary crossing or that he has ever had any type of inappropriate thoughts about me. My fear is that he is a bit too forthcoming with information, due to the fact that he is new at this.
What I am worried about is the fact that I am inquisitive and he is not highly skilled at directing the conversation in a different direction (which I love!). So, when I ask him personal questions he is more likely to answer rather than ask why I would ask such a question. And I'm certain he asks himself 10 minutes later "Oh no, why did I answer that?", I'm sure it isn't going to be 10 years later.
And he doesn't keep notes at all. A brief paragraph of what happened during the session. He says he has a good memory, which is true. Is that bad? Sometimes I get the feeling he's a little boy in big boy clothes. But, referring a client out is only an option IF and ONLY IF a therapist feels that they aren't helping a client or if they feel they may act upon feelings, right? If that's the case, then I see no need for alarm.
I think I'm going to go in during my next session, have a brief discussion about my asking too many questions, see what he says, also see if he's considered terminating my therapy and move on ASAP so I don't give him any ideas!As for your Pdoc offering you money, did that make you uncomfortable? That is a rather strange situation. On one hand it seems SO nice. It shows that he really cares about your wellbeing. But it begs the question of ethics and his ability to seperate himself from his clients. But, it also shows that you hold a special place at the front of the class :) I'd have snatched the $ from his hand as fast as I could, but that's just me. And said, "Could you bill me for it?" No, I don't think I could have taken the money either. I'd feel like I would have owed him. But, I don't tell my therapist when I have money problems. I like to pretend like I don't have money problems. But, I'm really skilled at denial. I could give you a lesson if you like :) However, it isn't a very effective coping technique. Especially if you spend money you don't have. YIKES!
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