Posted by Joslynn on January 16, 2004, at 9:35:47
In reply to Re: sorry links were scary! » Joslynn, posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 22:07:21
Hi Karen, I didn't mean to make it sound like I think you value yourself just for your looks and humor. Looking back at my post, I used way too many "you" messages, which I actually don't like to do.
I hope it didn't sound like, "now you young ladies, take a lesson from my wizened experience I have gain in my 34 years" LOL.
So, to keep to the I messages...in therapy, with both my female therp and my male shrink/pdoc, there is part of me that does want them to think I am pretty. And I also like to make them laugh, and know that I can. Once I almost made my pdoc spew coffeee all over his expensive computer.
But then, there's this other part of me that knows some of the best times have been when I've been ugly and crying with them.
Looks...I know what you mean about feeling unattractive, then feeling attractive. When I was a child, I was kind of cute but had the frizzy hair glasses chubby thiing. Then I went through puberty, growth spurts, boobs!, shape of face changes, contacts etc and suddenly, I was pretty. But then I would compare myself, look around the room and decide, was I the prettiest girl or not, who was prettier and why, etc. I was definitely treated differently as time went on...not so much by friends, but getting better treatment from strangers, in stores, etc.
Now, in my 30s, there are tons of young twenty year olds much cuter than me, and I can just look at them and be happy for them and glad that I'm not in my 20s anymore, because emotionally they were hard times.
Well, I am getting way off topic...
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