Posted by Kalamatianos on January 5, 2004, at 18:26:32
T's can't instill boundaries without having some. It's a big 'Duuuh" that a T must maintain a boundary between them and "folks", or go to JAIL and lose their practice!
No matter how much the indifference might cause pain in the "folks", indifference must be maintained in order to:
1. Create the clear boundary for "folks" to honor.
2. Gently instruct "folks" in the clear benefits of adopting such boundaries.
Many in society seem to have a problem with boundaries since their normal family drama/trauma contains a great deal of enmeshment. Enmeshment is the unmistakable evidence of co-dependency. Anyone's first line of defense against co-dependency is clear boundaries.
poster:Kalamatianos
thread:296879
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