Posted by fallsfall on November 26, 2003, at 20:15:22
In reply to New Question from a Therapist, posted by DaisyM on November 26, 2003, at 19:08:48
I called my therapist on a Saturday a couple of weeks ago. I really, really wanted to see him. This was the first time I had asked for an extra session (either during the week or on a weekend). He has a pager and called me right back. I told him the jist of my problem and that I could either keep thinking about it, bury it, or could I see him. Turns out he was at a conference that weekend an hour and a half away. So he said that he couldn't see me - BUT he made sure that I believed that he wasn't abandoning me - that he did want to talk about it on Monday, and the implication was (though he didn't say) that if he was local that weekend and didn't have major plans that he would have seen me. He asked me to bury the issue, but dig it up for our session on Monday. He told me I could call again that weekend if a 5 minute call could shore me up for a little more time - so I knew that he wasn't mad that I had called.
This sounds sort of like your therapists "I can't help you with this one, but I'll help you with others in the future". You may need to experience it before you will believe it - but I think it can work that way.
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