Posted by DaisyM on November 14, 2003, at 16:59:07
In reply to Re: This is bad?? » karen_kay, posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 16:10:27
I think you are being too hard on yourself. Think of it this way, in the "old" days, before the internet, clients actually had to "stalk" their therapist to get any information or relief from their questions -- and this had to be so much worse than just typing something into a box from the safety of your own home - while they are safe in theirs. I agree that anything on the net is fair game - it isn't like you paid for a private detective search.
As to your disappointment -- try turning it around, or maybe inside - out. He obviously isn't only interested in "skin deep" which is good and maybe she pursued him since he is so "yummy." :)
I guess the question for you to think about is how would you expect him to help you get over this crush? He can't exactly give you a list of his bad traits, you already know he is off limits and you've talked about it before with him. I think a replacement object is in order -- are there possibilities in your life? (married, boyfriend, etc?) I'm also guessing you made light of the subject, perhaps lighter than you should have, since it is now an issue. Maybe a thoughtful conversation about your tendency to develop crushes will do the trick. Just "thypking" (typing thoughts) out loud. Good luck! -D
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