Posted by Morgen on July 24, 2003, at 0:57:31
In reply to Re: Same sex therapist? No No. » pinkeye, posted by allisonf on July 16, 2003, at 2:56:35
I just wanted to see if there are any follow up comments with this thread about communicating these feelings to the therapist. I can't say I'm in love with mine at all, because I really just refuse to think about it, but I can say I love her, and our upcoming termination (due to me having to move) is making it more necessary, but not easier, to talk about what I'm feeling with regard to the relationship. I have just about given up on it however.
I had never really thought about my feelings being "transference" until I realized last week that I hadn't felt this miserable since I left my ex. And though I've phrased it that I left my ex, which I did, the separation was due to a long-lasting and continual betrayal (of which I was aware and, for way too long, hoped for change) and ultimate refusal to change. Though neither of us wanted to be parted from each other, I know we both ultimately felt rejection -- my ex because I was the one to leave, and me because my ex refused to change the things that hurt me. And I'm realizing right now, for the first time, that emotionally the situation is similar to being forced to terminate due to a necessary move. And transference or no, it is true that my therapist has taken over in some ways the emotional role of my ex, which was the reason I went into therapy.
If you've had any luck talking with your therapist about your feelings, I'd love some suggestions on how to approach it. Morgen.
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