Posted by Tabitha on May 8, 2003, at 23:36:09
In reply to Re: Like for instance.., posted by noa on May 8, 2003, at 19:38:36
Yeah, he's a little more impulsive than I am, that's for sure. I've followed my impulses into one disaster after another, so I don't jump so easily anymore.
I'm not sure what my discomfort is really about. It just seemed like it would be too much focus on me. His art is his thing separate from me.. and I want it to stay that way. My fear with dating at all is I'll lose my identity and get all caught up in the guy and sort of cease to exist. So him wanting to focus on my image reminds me of that. I don't know what it really means from his perspective.. I'm just taking my therapist's (possibly bad) advice and talking about it with him.. and you all.
Then he offered to stop painting me, and that doesn't seem right either. I suggested maybe I just don't want to see it yet. I'm clueless about this stuff, about negotiating things and all. My whole (dysfunctional) approach is to accomodate, and bend, and put up with everything, til I can't take another minute and then I exit stage left. I'm trying to learn another way.
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