Posted by likelife on February 26, 2003, at 0:15:44
I've been in therapy for something like 5 years, with 6-7 different therapists, because I've moved so much, changed insurance, etc.
Now that I've been with the same therapist for 2+ years, I sometimes wonder whether I belong in therapy anymore. Actually, my therapist makes me wonder whether I should be. She's told me that if I'm only continuing to come because I feel safe, that I should quit, because I'm wasting both her time and my time. And I think she's right. I'm afraid I will continue to manufacture problems, because I've found someone who will listen to me, really listen to me, and I don't want to give it up.
Then, on the other hand, it seems like there continue to be plenty of 'issues' for me to work on that might not be so imminent and well, life-threatening, but still seem important. I have tried to picture termination, and striking out on my own as it were, but I get panicky when I think about it, or I just stop thinking about it all together.
There are many transference/relationship issues that have been coming up over the past 4-5 months in therapy. And for a long while I was feeling extremely desperate because I felt like I couldn't get what I needed from therapy (which was largely just comfort). I've distanced myself somewhat from those needs, and have learned that I need to have them fulfilled elsewhere. At least the adult part of me has done that.
I don't want to leave therapy, but get the feeling that maybe I should. Does anyone share these feelings?
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thread:203887
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