Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2003, at 6:06:50
In reply to Re: Smile! It can't be that bad!, posted by noa on February 18, 2003, at 11:05:52
I like those. :) I got those comments a lot while working with the public in a summer job. And I never felt unhappy when it was said to me, so it always stung a bit. Perhaps service people are expected to have perpetual smiles glued to their faces.
The times I get those remarks now, I glance at them with the vaguest expression I can muster (one that comes easily to me) and ignore the comment. I remember reading in a Star Trek book once a comment by Spock's father (this was a fiction book based on the series.) It went something like <when he said that he didn't understand, it was clear that it meant that he was too polite to understand a rude statement, and that he was giving the other person a chance to gracefully back out of it>. I liked that and use it a lot with stupid but not ill spirited remarks.
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