Posted by Dinah on December 17, 2002, at 18:42:49
In reply to Re: Infatuated with my therapist, posted by Mikhail99 on December 17, 2002, at 17:10:59
Hey guys, thinking constantly about your therapist doesn't mean you're in love with him. I think it's a pretty normal phase of therapy that eventually you get past. My therapist says that one way therapy works is that you eventually internalize him. That you say to yourself "What would Harry say about this", then eventually you just internalize Harry. Then you don't need Harry any more.
Now if you fantasize about a romantic relationship with him, that's different. Just remember that he isn't the way he is with you all the time. He leaves that office and becomes a plain old person with all the annoying habits a plain old person has.
Any therapist worth his salt won't be dismayed by hearing your feelings for him, and will be trained to deal with it therapeutically. I did keep one final secret, one elephant in the room, that I didn't tell my therapist about until very recently. And guess what!!! He forgot it by the next session!!!!! Now that's probably worse than anything your therapist will do, and I've gotten over it. :)
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