Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2002, at 11:43:07
In reply to Attracted to Therapist - should I bring it up?, posted by pinkeye on December 6, 2002, at 19:50:08
Hi Pinkeye,
As you've seen here on Psycho-Psycho Babble, and if you look through the Psycho-Social Babble archives, you'll find that this isn't uncommon at all. Again, I recomment "In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists" by Deborah Lott.
You should of course bring this up with your therapist. It will interfere with your therapy if you don't. He's probably seen it a number of times, especially if he is young and attractive. If he reacts in an unprofessional manner, you'll know it's necessary to get a new therapist. If, as is more likely, he responds professionally, you might well be able to get through this, and even learn something from it. But even if he responds professionally, it may be a real attraction, not transference based. In that case, it might be better for you to find someone else. Fantasies are great. You can enjoy them privately. But torturing yourself with them is probably not wise.
Just my two cents.
Dinah
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