Posted by Medusa on November 21, 2002, at 14:25:27
I've noticed a pattern with therapists. The first few sessions or ten, they're attentive, alert, whatever. Then I lose their attention. I'm not that interesting any more. Or they think they've "made the sale" so they slack a bit. A few sessions into this, they start cutting sessions short. (But not their fees.)
Well, TurboShrink did that today. It's only my third session with her alone. (Saw her a few times with DH as well.)
My appointment was at 5, and I arrive 5 minutes early. The previous clients come out just as I get there, and offer to hold the door open for me. (One has to be buzzed in.) I decline, saying that the shrink probably needs a few minutes to collect herself. I sit on the steps until the city hall bell strikes five, then I ring. She buzzes me in, sits me down ... and excuses herself to go to the toilet.
A few minutes into the session, the doorbell rings. It's the previous clients, who've forgotten some papers. (Last session, the therapist's daughter came by.)
Should I act upset when this stuff happens? I usually just smile and brush it off, say I understand, it's not a problem, blah blah.
This shrink is pretty solid ... at first I thought she was stuffed to the gills with Freud (and she +is+ pretty deeply seeped in him) but she's full of practical behavioral stuff too. I don't want to "lose" her by whatever behavior of mine has caused so many previous shrinks to nod off. Is it time for me to get tough?
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