Posted by mair on July 18, 2002, at 17:16:47
In reply to Just read an article on dependency on therapist, posted by judy1 on July 17, 2002, at 13:47:17
I'm definitely there with you - my resistance to calling has been a source of much discussion in therapy, not only with my current therapist but also with previous ones. I've had these pretty inane discussions with my therapist about when it's ok to call, because believe me I don't know this intuitively at all. Her rule with me, and I'm sure for very few others, is for me to call whenever I feel like talking to her. She doesn't say, but I know that this is her rule because she knows I won't call unnecessarily and she wants me not to second guess any impulse I might have to call her in times of need.
I've been through some pretty rough periods and never so much as thought of picking up the phone. In 3+ years of being treated by her the only time I called her was shortly after I heard that Sar had died. I wasn't in danger, just extremely upset. It was the right thing to do on my part (although done with great difficulty) but I'm sure I would never have made that call if she and I hadn't spent so much time trying to get me over my hangup about bothering her.
Mair
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