Posted by bookgurl99 on August 28, 2002, at 19:51:21
In reply to Couples therapy, posted by Dinah on August 21, 2002, at 20:29:39
Who knows? Maybe some good could come of it. You know, for years I've watched my parents not really connect. And the risk of having moments of clarity and discomfort seems small next to the risk of having years of passing like two ships in the night. After all, if it's easier to sweep things under the rug, you can both pretend this never happened and go back to the old ways.
You know, my gf and I just went to 'couples' counseling with her therapist. She's dealing with sexual abuse issues, and going in together helped me to understand what she's going through. I think it'll help defuse some tension around sex that we've been having. AND now we have homework around the sex stuff, so it will be dealt with. Of course, we've only been together for a year and a half, and haven't had years to build up a crust of assumptions and habits. But, like I said, what could it hurt? You can always go back to the old ways if it gets too scary.
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