Posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2018, at 21:41:06
In reply to Re: personal diary correction, posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2018, at 21:28:09
and of course there is a notion, but it is hard to articulate...
you would notice it in pediatrics. in how people respond to infants who can't come out and say what it is that they need.
the idea of attunement. people who are try and figure out what they need.
vs people who try and impose what they need on those who are without power.
it's most strikingly obvious when you have 3 times in writing (and no communication to contrary / opposing effect or message).
but it's something you can assess in some people with respect to how they treat animals, yeah.
whether they are like 'come here now because i want you to be here now' and 'sit here now because i want you to sit here now'. i mean... like... on first meeting. and when the cat or the dog or whatever isn't... responded to... when there isn't a mutual responsivity... and the person would kick at them or stand on their tail or whatever.
of course there are animals who are more or less responsive, too. ones who bound up to everything all giddy or approach everything with fight in mind.
ones that are more laid back and sensitive to mutuality.
so it isn't about foetal alcohol. animals display it too.
and now i'm treating it like it's an invariant character pathology instead of something affected by a variety of things that can vary depending...
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