Posted by fayeroe on August 23, 2008, at 13:14:00
In reply to Self esteem and my age, posted by bql on August 22, 2008, at 18:28:38
> Hi. I have a problem with my age. I pretty much know where it comes from - my parents. They always criticized me in relation to it.
Aren't your parents aware that they are the reason for your age? Please try to detach from that silly line of thought and be your own person/age. :-)
But i want to know how to solve it.
I don't have a solution for you.
The problem is that i always think about my age when i do some bigger things in my life or interact with people. Its like I stereotype others but mostly myself all the time. When theres a concert of a band I like i think about the age of audience that will be there and wil it fit me or not.
I am 65 and I go to concerts. I truly don't see my age affecting my enjoyment of the music and I don't care how it affects others.
The same with partys clubs etc. When I get a new contact even if i dont know his or hers age at the beginning and i like the person I can even freak out later when I find it out that he or she turns out to be much younger (older people than I am I dont find so disgraceful to myself).
Can you get some therapy for this? Being uncomfortable over someone else's age has to be very hard on you. You have absolutely no control over anyone else just like you have no control over your age.
Last time I remember was with a 17 years old girl who I thought was 19 or 20. When I was 16 I wanted to try out alternative clothing but I thought that I am to old for that allready so I did nothing. Now that I am 21 I still want to try it out but now I think that I should have tried it out when I was 16 and now I am to old. Actually there are many things that I want to do which relate to the youth but I consider myself too old for them. I have started to think about when I should become a parent also.
I'm confused here, will you think that you are too old to have children or too old for the children?
And so on there are numerous examples. I hope you get the idea.
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