Posted by alexandra_k on July 21, 2013, at 0:28:20
In reply to Re: I feel sad, posted by willful on July 20, 2013, at 23:15:54
> The nub of our disagreement then is that I do in fact think there is a responsibility to new posters who have been accused of terrible things upon their entry into our site, to attempt to limit the damage that some responses can have.
Or maybe the nub of our disagreement is that you think the best way to limit the damage is to focus on the damage. Whereas I think the best way to limit the damage is to shift the focus.
Like how you see a little kid fall over quite hard.
Then they look for their Mummy.Option 1:
Mummy is all cheerful 'oh you did a whoopsie! look at the birdie! see the birdie!'
And the kid shifts focus to the birdie and doesn't cry about the boo-boo.
Option 2:
Mummy is all 'oh my god! that must have hurt! how awful! oh that bad and nasty swing you must never play on swings again! oh poor poor poor poor you!'
And the kid bawls its little eyes out. and develops a phobia. of swings. or little white fluffy things. i forget.
I kind of think of it like that...
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