Posted by Dinah on March 27, 2011, at 7:32:21
In reply to An alternative to lying. » Twinleaf, posted by Dinah on March 27, 2011, at 7:04:54
If your intent was not to hurt Racer. And if you don't consider it a win win situation to be able to continue to say things that might hurt her without being blocked, you could without even a hint of lying say something like "My intention was never to hurt Racer, and I deeply regret if my words did so." Without of course, reiterating the thing you're being asked to apologize for or stating again that you believe it to be true. Which would sort of negate the expressed regret, wouldn't it?
Sort of like "I really never meant to hurt "Q" by saying that "Q" is a great big ninny. I really regret if saying that "Q" had all the wit of a cheese sandwich left too long in the sun hurt "Q"'s feelings. But the simple truth is that "Q" is quite stupid and I really can't say that he isn't".
"I never meant to hurt Racer, and I regret if my words were hurtful to her." PERIOD. No lying, and it's possible it could be a perfectly true and acceptable expression of regret.
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