Posted by violette on January 4, 2011, at 16:27:44
In reply to Re: Phillipa - Say it ain't so. » SLS, posted by ou812 on January 3, 2011, at 18:36:42
ou812,
People have different stakes when it comes to privacy. Before i came here, I used a support forum for women who lived with domestic violence. Upon request, the moderator would delete your user name (which would then delete all your posts). Some people can get hurt, and I mean really hurt-if their identity was connected with the things they say here, and not everyone has irl support. Some people have rational reasons to be 'paranoid'. There are other possibilities you left out of your judgment call in regard to how people feel about their privacy. Others might not understand due to limited life experiences...but even those without specific situations should be able to empathize if some time is taken to think about possibilities.
I agree with some things that you've said. The rules of this forum actually encourage passive agressiveness. I've written about this before, so won't get into details. It's not difficult to figure out anyway.
And I've also observed how people flock to posts like this while nobody responds to another person posting for help. I've written about that too-this isn't really the best place to get support.
But as someone who usually comes out and defends others when I perceive that someone is being bullied-i disagree that bringing this issue up is bullying Phillipa. Like Maxime, I simply asked her to delete anythign personal she might have. And as with Alexandria, I didn't see any bad intent on Phillipa's part. People do have to protect themselves though. And if someone is repeating behavior unacceptable to others-regardless of intent, they need to know that it is unacceptable.
And i would never be interested in bullying you Phillippa, even after I felt betrayed by your post here - saying 'let me know if one of these is your email...but i've deleted mine for security reasons.'. paraphrase..You thought (according to what you said) it might be my email-but listed it anyway.
Sometimes you just have to be more assertive and less passive when self protection is necessary.
......and people just don't know what the stakes are for another individual who has used or who uses this forum-even if it is some primitive human behavioral experiment devised by Dr. Bob.Sometimes this place makes me think of those rat swimming experiments.
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