Posted by Dr. Bob on December 2, 2010, at 17:37:16
In reply to Re: sore spots, posted by muffled on November 29, 2010, at 9:17:37
> > You're not silenced. You're posting. An uncivil part of you may be silenced. That I'd happy to accept responsibility for.
>
> :( The most hurt parts inside are not necessarily 'civil' at all times. Some are angry, some are so hurt.
> I am NOT supposed to 'silence' them :( I am supposed to nurture them and listen to them. THAT is support.
> Friends IRL who are supportive will allow for occasional incivility when the pain bleeds.
> Here, at the slightest hint...blocked, warned etc.
> Then the shame comes, the 'I am bad'. Then the shrivelling retreat :("Silenced" wasn't my word. What I had in mind was:
> > parts shouldn't hurt the body
> > Babble = the bodyBeing kept from doing something can feel like being silenced. But angry and hurt parts need to be kept from hurting the body. Parts need to learn how to express themselves in ways that don't hurt the body.
Speaking of shame:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/958778.html
Bob
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