Posted by ron1953 on July 11, 2010, at 14:28:44
In reply to Re: when a person is hurt » ron1953, posted by violette on July 11, 2010, at 13:52:04
Violette:
Sorry you felt criticized; that was not my intent. In fact, I wasn't directing my comments to anybody in particular, including you. My comments were, in fact, a "challenge" to the idea or concept that if one feels hurt, there are specific and correct ways to look at those feelings, and that those ways are unchangeable. The challenge I offer to others is the same challenge I give myself - that when I feel hurt by another person, to 1) avoid an emotional hijacking 2) deliberately not react reflexively (when in doubt, do nothing) 3) ponder all the possible angles.
These are merely my views and suggestions. If they're of any interest, fine. If not, fine. To take them as personal criticism is unfortunate.
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