Posted by Nadezda on July 9, 2009, at 19:44:07
In reply to Re: Apologies, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2009, at 8:14:49
I'd like to add my strong agreement to the idea that Bob has shown a tremendous commitment and generosity to us on Pbabble.
I'm amazed by the comments that people have made recently.
I just want to say that I very much admire Bob's efforts here. I wish he had somewhat different rules, and I wish he were more loquacious, because the terseness of his posts, I think, puts people off and makes them feel, incorrectly, disrespected.
But that's a rhetorical limitation. He is who he is--and his style of expression doesn't take away from his contribution to us. Nor does his terseness does take away the often-thoughtful point of his comments-- or his willingness to allow people to say things that I would never be able to endure. I think it's a shame that his comments are misinterpreted.
I think he does regret hurting Alex. And that doesn't require his apologizing, as Dinah pointed out in another thread. I take him at his word that he genuinely regrets the effect on Alex of his actions-- which he may well still believe were appropriate under the circumstances.
I personally regret how many people have been hurt here, and that there's so much pain under the surface-- even if I don't share the reactions that others have.
Maybe none of us understands the reasons for the rules-- the history that led to their evolution to their present form-- And certainly none of us knows the effect of other possible rule sets--- And as importantly, I wonder if people consider the ways in which ongoing revisions and reworkings of rules would destabilize the environment, when there may be many vulnerable people here who need consistency and stability.
Nadezda
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