Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 17, 2009, at 22:21:43
In reply to Re: why this site can be so hurtful..., posted by Tabitha on June 12, 2009, at 11:27:00
Wow, this is exactly what I was thinking. On what other board would the administrator, no owner, be expected to be warm, enthusiastic, in touch, and in a relationship with the people there? I can't think of a single other board I've been involved with that is like that. And it shouldn't be. Dr. Bob would be rolling the dough from all the bills he would send out if he were to be like a therapist to us. This is a peer support board. I am dumbfounded.
And, I don't know if people gossip or not, but wow, that would be weird. I mean, nobody here is really all that real to me. I don't use my real name. I have said things about my life, but there's no way anyone is going to figure out who I am out of the millions of people in my metro area. So I care, a lot, about people here, but there is a necessary and complete distance that separates me from anyone I am actually "talking" to. So that none of this affects my day to day life. I will leave before I let the unreality of a bulletin board become my actual reality.
> I'm baffled when folks find it hurtful that Dr Bob doesn't behave like a warm and wonderful therapist. Why should he? He's not a therapist, and that's not his role here.
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> In life, people in authority or leadership aren't likely to be wise & warm therapist-like figures. Is your boss that way? Your accountant? Your family doctor? It's almost as odd to me as if someone reported they were emotionally damaged by the coldness of their stockbroker. If that happened, wouldn't it be time to look at your expectations and projections? So why such expectations of a research psychiatrist & website owner?
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> I wouldn't even want Dr Bob to be such a wonderful figure. Then this place would become "the Dr Bob Show" instead of a peer group support board.
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