Posted by twinleaf on June 14, 2009, at 13:08:27
In reply to Rules or No Rules? » twinleaf, posted by SLS on June 14, 2009, at 12:32:53
Hi...
I actually didn't notice your "rules-no rules request. I think what I'd like is more along the lines of "guidelines",so that suggestions for solving a "problem", if there is one, can be discretionary, taking in to account the many factors which exist in each situation. So, I guess I come down on the side of "no rules"-at least no absolute ones. But that doesn't mean that we wouldn't all have to work hard to keep our site functioning as close to the ideals of the guidelines as possible,
I know it does sound idyllic, but these ideas came from a real place- my son's pre-school. Little three year olds were told that they had done something that hurt another person- in my son's case, he would usually get so excited about what he was doing that he would knock down other people's blocks by running into them. He was always informed about it, but never told "no" or "that was bad". Instead, he would always be asked, "what do you think would be the best thing to do about this?" It would take a while, but he could always come up with good ideas like, "I'll help her build it up again."
We thought this was such a great way to bring up children that we adopted it, full-time- at home. Now our son is a young experimental string theorist at Princeton. He is much loved there; I think it is, in part, because he knows how to be truly respectful of others while giving equal respect to his own needs as a person and a man.
If it worked so well for three year olds, what would you think about our chances?
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