Posted by SLS on June 12, 2009, at 13:46:38
In reply to Re: why this site can be so hurtful..., posted by Tabitha on June 12, 2009, at 11:27:00
> I'm baffled when folks find it hurtful that Dr Bob doesn't behave like a warm and wonderful therapist. Why should he? He's not a therapist, and that's not his role here.
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> In life, people in authority or leadership aren't likely to be wise & warm therapist-like figures. Is your boss that way? Your accountant? Your family doctor? It's almost as odd to me as if someone reported they were emotionally damaged by the coldness of their stockbroker. If that happened, wouldn't it be time to look at your expectations and projections? So why such expectations of a research psychiatrist & website owner?Excellent points.
> I wouldn't even want Dr Bob to be such a wonderful figure. Then this place would become "the Dr Bob Show" instead of a peer group support board.For some, Dr. Bob would become a guru, and be quite capable of acting as a pied piper and perhaps lead his followers as lemmings over the precipice to their peril below.
This is a metaphor, of course, but not very far from the truth of what happens all around the world every day in days past and present. I saw such a thing for myself when I was working as an exercise instructor. You should have seen the adolescents and young adults follow his every move and hang on his every word. The guy just happened to be psychologist by profession.
- Scott
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