Posted by 10derHeart on May 7, 2009, at 17:35:23
In reply to Re: What Are You Afraid Of?, posted by ron1953 on May 7, 2009, at 16:57:58
Sorry my answer wasn't an answer for you. Are you maybe making an assumption there *is* fear?
Can't people experience other emotions besides fear?I don't feel fear when people engage in what you call "brutal honesty" - here or on other forums. I just don't like the tone, or atmosphere. It doesn't jive with how I strive to treat people online or face-to-face. I don't have brutal honesty as an ideal, or goal, or whatever term works. I do have civil discourse, empathy and kindness as goals. Some people do value brutal honesty and a more blunt style. I understand that, but they (like me) have to then anticipate possible (or definite) consequences in various communities, for their chosen approach.
It's really not more complex than that. Nothing will necessarily "happen" to me, except perhaps being disinclined to post anything. I might get my feelings hurt, yes, and I suppose I do fear that in a way. But, as Dinah said and I agreed - I would likely leave before that started to be the norm... Why subject myself to that when I am only after a civil discussion, or some opinions, information, etc?
My emotional reactions to other forums where I might describe the rules as allowing something like a free-for-all? Fear doesn't come to mind, more like disappointment, confusion, sadness, and even bewilderment at what I'm reading. Followed by apathy, and then the action of leaving that place.
I can't think of a better way to explain it.
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